Don't Give the Ghost Up, Just Clench Your Fists

You are head-over-heels for this one guy and you know that he likes you too, BUT he’s head-over-heels for something else. Nope, it’s not his crazed ex-girlfriend or his mother, you know what it is? It’s his job. And it’s a job that doesn’t involve wearing a suit and tie, or working in one of those exclusive buildings. No, it’s a job where he’s outside, saving people’s lives. Where’s he getting his hands dirty and where the lives of others are in his hands. Ok ladies, being Spiderman is not a career, not unless you’re Tobey Maguire. He’s someone who we take for granted every day, who risks their lives for YOU and run into burning buildings, with nothing but protective gear and a helmet. Yes, ladies, what I’m talking about today is a fire-fighter and why it’s a risk worth taking to bring him into your life.

No worries, it’s not me or Harvey that I’ll be talking to you about today. It’s about my friend Van, who really likes this guy who is in love with his job. And yes, he is a fire-fighter. Great, right? He’s well-built to carry you, he's heroic, he’s beautiful to look at, and maybe, he’s in that calendar that you own. But despite all of that, there’s one flaw. He’s out there, saving people’s lives, while you’re living life every day, as if one phone call could change your life, forever. You’re taking a risk liking him, because he’s taking a risk saving people. Is it because we don’t want to get hurt, if something bad happens to him? Isn’t that selfish, though? These are some of the questions that were pointed out by Van, to me, about liking someone like, this guy. You know what, I do find it somewhat selfish, but not to the point. Nobody wants to get hurt in a relationship, even if the guy is not a dick, he just loves his job. It’s a defence mechanism that is wired into everyone. We just don’t want to be alone, that’s why we’re trying not to like this guy. But you know what? Though I do find this some risky business, haven’t you thought about it on his side? Every time he’s out at his job, he’s thinking of YOU. He’s going to do the best he can to make this relationship work out. If he loves you, he would be doing the best he can to stay alive, just to see you again. He may be tough and buff, but inside, he cares for you and only you. Life’s about taking risks, but without them, life’s not the same. Take risks, like he’s taking risks out there. Take it from the leading ladies from all those comic books, nothing stopped them for loving their supermen, even if their lives were in danger. That’s what loving someone does to you, you’re willing to do anything (not anything stupid, though) for this one guy and you don’t care, just as long as he’s yours. Don’t move forward and regret giving him a chance. Give him one, Van, it’s the least you could do, while he’s out there fighting fires. I know how you feel, when you say that you're jealous of the whole world, because that's his first priority. And I know that you feel as though, you'd have to start a fire to catch his attention, but from what I see, all you have to do is let him into your life. He’s a life saver, but he’s also human and he needs someone there for him and I know you’re even capable of saving his life, because you’re worthwhile!

Lots of Love,


V