These Words From My Heart

You know what’s rare these days? Honesty. Straight-fowardness. Courage. Especially with regards to feelings. We totally get caught up in this universe where: when you have something good to say, don’t say it all. Wasn’t it supposed to be when you have something bad to say? Yes, unfortunately, it’s so rare to tell your true feelings for that someone, because we have this mentality that the only thing we can tell our true feelings to is our teddy bear bedroom walls. It’s not bad, really, but the problem with everyone these days is that we don’t want to be JUDGED. We don’t want to be REJECTED. We don’t want to get HURT. We are COWARDS. However, for those who tell their true feelings, attractive or not, kudos! But, we make fun of those people. We question their antics. And we go even further to make fun of them: Who does that guy think he is? We make their lives a living hell, meanwhile, we’re doing that to ourselves by not telling the guy the truth. Advice to me and you, my fellow ladies: QUIT IT.

Earlier, I was talking about Harvey and how I would take things slow. But today, because of that friend who grew balls, I was inspired. Actually, I made a truce with her and now I have to fulfill my part. AKA, I have to ask Harvey out for coffee, which shouldn’t be a big deal. I said shouldn’t. Anyways, my friend, let’s call her Jaylin, had a hell-of-a-dilemma. The guy, who she is friends with (who also has a girlfriend), told her that he had still had feelings for her, and they haven’t changed. I know, scandalous, right? Well as she was dealing with this “I-jus-shit-in-my-pants-from-anxiety” situation, she realized that she has feelings for him too. Would totally be romantic, if she wasn’t the third wheel, right? Well, she wanted to tell him, but obviously, it’s a little risky and plus, homewrecker status was on high. So she didn’t for a while, until two/three days ago. And you know, I don’t see her as a homewrecker. It’s a not a sin to say something on your mind. She had a need to be honest with him. And here’s where she inspired me. We need a little more honesty. We need to stand out from the rest of the girls who think that flirting or making sexual gestures will get them into a guy’s heart. In the end, all that matters is your true feelings, even if it’s just a crush. In terms of marriage, sure wearing/saying something sexy is a good way to start a marriage, but when it all boils down to nothing, what really matters? Love. Sure, love can be expressed in many ways: expensive gifts, sex, a kiss, a hug, who are we kidding? But the best part part of love is hearing those three, yet so cliché, words: I LOVE YOU, from the person that you can say those three words to too. Nothing should be holding you back from saying it, you should be able to say it freely. No strings attached. And this is what Jaylin did. She took the hit. She took it for the team. It may be an obvious anxiety attack on her part, but for me, it’s inspiring. Love you, girl!


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