"The bravest thing that men do is love women." - Mort Sahl
How many strikes does it take for a strike out? For all the avid baseball fans, three. But for the obsessive fans of jackasses, it takes more than three strikes to ditch the guy. And you know what? It pisses me off to see many girls go through that cycle of falling for a guy, who refuses to even love them back. The countless times, he comes into our minds, and sometimes, you wonder: does he ever think of me like that, the way I do? And chances are, he's not. As hurtful as it does sound, jackasses will always be jackasses. Just like bitches will always be bitches. It's sad to see, especially when it's happening to one of your fellow girl friends and though, advice has been given, she has not gone through with the plans of ditching him. It hurts me to see the struggle that she goes through and that you've done your job, so there's nothing else that you could do. You told her the truth, but it's totally up to her to act upon it.
It's not that guys don't realize that we like them. They know, they play with our hearts and our minds until we totally reject our friends' values and advice and we go with what we think we know. I'm not telling you guys are evil creatures and should be exterminated. Without guys, life wouldn't be much fun, would it? I mean, they make life thrilling. Girls do it to guys too! The problem is that when we fall for someone, we tend to forget everything around us. All the important people, things that we treasured before, all for this one person. Usually, it's rare, that this person is right for you. The right person, won't ever let this happen to you. If he loved you, then he would never take anything away from you that is important. Instead, he will put his full trust in what you do and what you love. But where do we find these people that won't hurt you?
You don't have to search far. The problem with girls these days is that we are looking for a person who is so surreal that we come to the point where they believe that this person is unattainable. But the reality is, that person could be standing in front of you. Waiting. Loving you for who you are. Remembering the little things you tell him. Simply making you smile. Lending a helping hand when you need it. And most importantly, ready to defend you at all times, making sure that no one will hurt you. They will always be there for you. But you tend to not see them in that sense, because you're busy lusting over someone else. Yes, it's lust, girlfriend. A one-sided relationship is simply just lust. And unfortunately, we take these people for granted. We fail to realize the valuable loyalty that they have for us and they, just like all those perfect guys, slowly disappear. Think about it, rejecting a guy for being all that, could make him a jackass to all those other girls, because you didn't pay attention to him. So maybe, jackasses have a reason (not all of them, though) to be a jackass.
My advice: Pay attention to yourself first. Love yourself. Be confident. Then your eyes will open to the one you want. Because if you don't respect yourself, first, then the person won't respect you back. I'm sure you all are wonderful people and deserve the best. Don't lose hope. The right person is in front of you, begging for the moment for you to realize the truth. The right person is not the person who is willing to give you the world to please you, they are the ones who will just hold your hand through thick and thin or who will just smile at you, to tell you that they are there for you and only you. Just one small thing, will become a lifetime of happiness.
To All the Perfect Men All Over The World: Don't be afraid, we won't bite. Don't be shy, please. Go get her, tiger! Don't take rejection as a blow to your self-esteem, take it to find confidence.
Lots of Love,
V
P.s. Again, I'm sorry for the long wait. More to come, I promise. My blogging days are not numbered!
