For the Sake of Humanity, Get a Room

Caresses, expressions of one sort or another, are necessary to the life of the affections as leaves are to the life of the affections are to the life of a tree. If they are wholly restrained, love will die at the roots. ~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

Yes Mr. Hawthorne, that may be true. Caresses, they feel good, but does it look pleasing to the eye from a third party's perspective? What I'm talking about here isn't just a spontaneous caressing session here...I'm talking about full out caressing--not caressing, just any type of PDA, as a matter of fact.

Today, while I was waiting for the bus (why do interesting things happen on the bus?) and a couple caught my eye. They were pecking at each other as if the guy was leaving for the army and she was staying home with the family. And I was like, "Aw isn't that sweet?" Where was my anger, you say? I thought you were hating on the PDA. Yeah, but PDA ain't that bad, it's good here and there, but not everywhere you go. I'm not talking about holding hands, I'm talking about kissing (not even making out), yes, just kissing. So, as I was saying, couple kissing as if it was the end of the world. I thought it was cute, because they were inseparable, and I wished I had that with someone. BUT then it happened, as I boarded the bus, so did they, yes I said they. No it wasn't just one, it was both. And I was like WTF? Are you kidding me? It was cute, but then it started getting nasty. And of course, they had to sit in front of me, so I could share their moments of love. And boy, did I just die. It was honestly, twenty minutes of sucking face for them and throwing up in my mouth. I looked around if I wasn't the only one barfing and I just felt bad for the girl sitting beside them, innocently listening to her iPod. Luckily, the girl (not the one listening to the iPod) took out an unfinished crossword puzzle and the guy was just looking out the window. But, that didn't work out either, as the girl got stuck on a clue. And of course, they went at it again, pecking at each other. Like just randomly, they would do it. It was just weird to look at it. After they asked each other questions or after she texted someone. They just gave each other that look and just kissed each other. Sounds cute, right? But to me, it just looked like some form of turrets-inspired pecking sessions.

Public Display of Affection. It's everywhere. Wherever you are there's a couple holding hands, doing their thing. And I'm fine with that. I'm totally fine with the subtle, simplistic things that couples do, that's what I like. And the occasional pecking on the cheek or on the lips, but not every second. Wouldn't you just get tired of it? Every second and every minute, there's someone breathing and slobbering all over you, it's making me cringe, as we speak. Isn't it better to expect the unexpected? Like getting a kiss out of the blue or as you walk, he suddenly grasps your hand and you just look at each other and smile. Isn't that better? Love, like public display of affection, should come unexpectedly, it should just happen naturally. It shouldn't become a ritual or else it becomes less special. And plus, it's not fun for other people to look at. Good thing, there weren't children around. So, if you're thinking of PDAing with your special someone, don't think, just let it happen...or get a room.

Lots of Love,

V The World

Your Turn!

Prior all of this Harvey shinnanigans, I wanted people to email me what kinds of situations you are going through and maybe give you guys advice. I'm here to lend you a helping hand or give you feedback. Just email me at askmevie@gmail.com and I'll post your questions or maybe your love stories on my blog. Show me some love!

Lots of Love,

V

How Can I Love You, If You Don't Talk to Me?

"I had this guy leave me a voice mail at work so I called him at home and then he e-mailed me to my Blackberry and so I texted to his cell and then he e-mailed me to my home account and the whole thing just got out of control. And I miss the days when you had one phone number and one answering machine and that one answering machine has one cassette tape and that one cassette tape either had a message from a guy or it didn't. And now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It's exhausting."

~Mary, He's Just Not That Into You

I know, it's typical of me to put up a quote from a chick-flick that is my life-story, but hey, I only write about things that are true. It is easy to contact people these days, with all those social networking tools. With the press of the "Add" button, you could easily add the guy you kinda know , but you kinda don't. Or with the press of the "Send" button, you could send the guy a prospective chill session. And while we're dying in the corner waiting for him to respond, we justify his ignorance on our requests. Whatever happened to face-to-face interaction? Well, the most obvious reason is that it leads to shit-your-pants-situations definite answers, rather than justifying on why he never responded to that BBM you sent or the friend request that has been pending for months days. We name countless possibilities on why he hasn't responded. Maybe he was kidnapped and taken hostage. Maybe he fell into a hole into this new universe. Sometimes you wish that maybe you hadn't sent it at all. Or sometimes you actually wish that YOU fell into a hole and disappeared from the humiliation. It takes confidence to social network with others, but you know what's even scarier? Face-to-face interaction.

He's right there and you're talking to him. You're looking into his eyes, then to his sexy mouth, wishing that you could kiss them. You're asking him questions and he fires the answers. That's what you get, you get the answers to the questions, right away. Without dying in a corner or wishing that you fell from the face of the earth. And the more you talk to each other, the easier it will be to message him or add him on Facebook. This is probably why, talking to a guy in person is so much harder, than messaging him. However, there are some guys/girls who gain confidence behind the screen. Sometimes, you wonder, are they legit like that in person? He could tell you the utmost sweetest thing, but what's missing? His eyes, telling you the truth. Someone once said that the eyes are the key to the soul and they're the only way to know whether or not a person is telling the truth. Behind the screen you can't see...with the exception of Skype (ok, you got me), but still!

Face-to-face interaction is one of the best ways to communicate with a guy. Just seeing him and talking to him, makes you like (or hate) him more. You know if he's actually smiling/laughing rather than just LOLing or just LMFAOing. And you're not falling for the guy behind the screen, you're falling for the guy in front of you and for having the confidence to talk to you face-to-face. For my fellow readers out there, kudos to you to those who do it. I need to do it more often!

Lots of Love,

V

P.S. Sorry for the slacking, I've been busy!